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Self-esteem


Healthy Self-Esteem

Healthy self-esteem is:

  • A sense of internalized core self-worth or value in your own unique qualities and characteristics.
  • Independent of external accomplishments or characteristics.

One way to improve your self-esteem is to focus on the positive qualities that represent your core self-worth.

Positive Affirmations

Positive Affirmations are positive, present-focused statements that we repeat to ourselves in order to change negative thought patterns in our minds. They help to combat self-doubt and self-criticism to help us build self-confidence.

This means we have to be very careful with our words, choosing to speak to ourselves in a way which works towards our benefit and cultivates our highest good. Affirmations help us create a self-fulfilling prophecy in which we move closer to our aspirational selves by challenging our self-defeating, negative thoughts.

A good rule of thumb is to repeat these affirmations 3-5 times to yourself at least twice per day, every day. Eventually, these statements become as second nature as any self-critical thoughts have become.

9 P's for Positive Affirmations

When creating positive affirmations, keep in mind that they should be:

PRESENT Set in the present tense.
POSITIVE  No negative words.
PERSONAL Tailored to you.
PRECISE Detailed and specific.
POWERFUL Empowering words.
PUNCHY Short and concise.
PLAUSIBLE Realistic statements.
PRIVATE Can keep to yourself daily.
PERSISTENT Use even if you don't believe it's true

 Adapted from Works by Che Garman


Additional Resources


If you feel you are struggling with your self-esteem or any of the factors associated with developing stronger self-esteem, please contact Counseling and Psychological Services at 850.474.2420 or visit our center in Building 960, Suite 200A, Monday through Friday, 8 a.m.-5 p.m. to set up an appointment. 

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